Wow, these past 2 days have flown right on by.... I don't know if it's because of the time change, and it seems so much earlier than it is...and then I look at the clock and it's 5 o'clock...time to go home...woo-hoo!! Speaking of the time change.... does anybody else have the HARDEST time waking up in the morning now?? I love, love, love the evening time now... and I love, love, love that it stays light longer (especially for the kids); but I h-a-t-e that it's still dark at 7 a.m!! Oh well, I can't win them all...right??
Anyway, it's that time of the week where, thanks to TuTu's Bliss, I get to give my "Two Cents". And this week, we get a bonus.... the best "Two Cents" wins a custom collage and photo editing services!!
Today's Two Cents is something that has bothered me for a LONG time.... winning and losing; and how we do or do not allow our children to lose!!!!
I remember growing up and playing games with my friends...or competing in Field Day at school, there was always a winner and a loser. If your team scored enough points playing kickball, then you won... and the other team LOST. if you didn't win the bean-bag toss or relay race during field day, then you disn't get a first,second or third place ribbon!! That was it.... and you know what-- we survived!! We learned that sometimes you win and sometimes you lose...and that is OKAY....as a matter of fact, sometimes it is good to lose. It is good to lose because then you will WANT to win!!
Now-a-days, kids do not lose... they are not allowed to lose!! In t-ball, all of the kids get a hit, they all get to run to first base, nobody gets out...each team wins!! At Field Day, every child gets an "I'm a winner" ribbon, whether they win or lose!! When the kids have school functions or classroom games, each child wins...nobody loses!!! What??? What do you think that is really teaching the kids???
In my opinion, that is a huge disservice to our children. If we don't let them lose, then they will never learn 1) that it's ok to lose and 2) that if they do lose, it will teach them to strive to win!! If they never learn how it feels to lose, then they will never get the motivation to want to win. They will not learn how to try harder...they will never have anything to work for!!!
And this will carry on into there college and adult lives. They need to want to succeed...they need to want to move-up in their jobs...to further their careers!!!
And allowing them to ALWAYS win, will never let them feel that way!!! I am constantly telling my children that sometimes you win and sometimes you lose...and it is OK if you are the one that loses..... Just pick yourself up and try again!!!
This is not to say that they won't get upset when they do lose...because they will.... and I will be there to comfort them when it happens (and cheer them on when they win!!). But if they never lose, they will never know that feeling; therefore will never want the other feelings!!!
WOW....was that more than Two Cents?? Do I get docked for being too wordy, TuTu??
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