Thank you to Tutu's Bliss for Two Cents Tuesday (wow, lots of T's) because I definitely have something on my mind today!! It just so happens that her topic is on parenting and that is exactly what I want to talk about it. Her parenting discussion is about being a paranoid parent--always worrying about your child getting sick or hurt or whatever; and I am definitely a worrier and I definitely have alot to say on that topic....... BUT, what I want to give my two cents on is having favorites!!!
It is an unwritten rule that we, as parents, do not have a favorite child. I mean we love all of our children differently, for different reasons.....and we show are love differently to each one too, based on what they are comfortable with... like Ethan and Joseph are cuddlers and like to be hugged on and snuggled with; CJ and Angie like verbal affection!!
But, what is the "rule" for kids having a favorite parent.... is it true: "Boys are closer with their moms and Girls are closer with their dads"?? I would like to think (well, I know it is true) that I am very close with my kids. We do everything together, we share everything and we spend most of our free time with each other.....and I would NEVER want them to pick me over their dad or their dad over me (but if they have to pick-- they better pick me!!...he-he, I joke, I joke).
However, lately, I have been feeling kind of bummed or hurt or sad because I feel like Angie loves her daddy much more than me.... I know, I know, I am being silly, but I can't help the way I feel!! She is always saying how she loves daddy and wants to be with him.... and I will say, "I love you too" and she just looks at me and says "well, I love my daddy!!"
Now, I know, she is only 3 and she really doesn't mean that she loves him more than me....... or does it?? I know kids can be closer with one parent, but do you really think they can have a favorite....can they love one more than the other??
I am not trying to be a spoiled, whiny parent, AT ALL..... seriously, I feel like I do so much for all of my children and I try to keep everything in order and yet still have fun; but at the same time, I am the disciplinarian and I do most of the yelling.... so, do I lose "points" for that??
Anybody else ever feel this way?? Do you get me...or am I just being irrational??? Give me your "two cents"!!!
Cute story: Joseph is definitely a mama's boy...to the extreme... He would do anything for me and he is very, very protective of me (all 37 lbs of him--- yes, at 7 yrs old he is only 37 lbs!!). Anyway, last night after Angie just got done telling me that she only loved daddy and wanted to only be with him, I walked into the kitchen and Joseph said:
"Well, good thing you have me mommy...because you know I love you!!!"...... That's my boy!!
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